Comments on: Ten ways for senior executives to get ahead by managing themselves http://www.the-confidant.info/2010/ten-ways-for-senior-executives-to-get-ahead-by-managing-themselves/ Working behind the scenes, helping people of power see themselves, situations, and others differently Sun, 08 Apr 2012 22:30:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: It ain't what you do; it's the way that you reflect on it — Dr Graham Wilson MBACP FRSA – 'The Confidant' http://www.the-confidant.info/2010/ten-ways-for-senior-executives-to-get-ahead-by-managing-themselves/#comment-1378 It ain't what you do; it's the way that you reflect on it — Dr Graham Wilson MBACP FRSA – 'The Confidant' Sun, 08 Apr 2012 22:14:37 +0000 http://www.the-confidant.info/?p=519#comment-1378 [...] Ten ways for senior executives to get ahead by managing themselves [...] [...] Ten ways for senior executives to get ahead by managing themselves [...]

]]> By: admin http://www.the-confidant.info/2010/ten-ways-for-senior-executives-to-get-ahead-by-managing-themselves/#comment-1368 admin Thu, 08 Mar 2012 11:35:37 +0000 http://www.the-confidant.info/?p=519#comment-1368 Thanks Joolz. Yes, totally agree that having the title doesn't mean you 'know' it all. That said, I'm less convinced about personal growth plans. I suppose it depends on how they are written, but what I am trying to get my clients to be able to do is to be able to describe their emotional senses, not retrospectively but concurrently, and to be able to reach a state of flow through a conscious path rather than an unconscious one. To explain the last bit, if the individual is working with their emotional states in the unconscious then if they reach a condition of flow their behaviour may not be congruent with the values they have (by this stage) agreed they wish to model. If, on the other hand, they are able to monitor their emotional states and bring this into the conscious, then when they reach a state of flow, there is a greater likelihood that it will congruent because the emotional distress or angst caused by the values and behaviour being incongruent would be ringing alarm bells in their mind and either make them aware of this subsequently or, more likely, prevent them from achieving the state of flow in the first place. Now, if I was someone reading this from the outside I think I might be wondering what kind of planet this bloke is coming from!? Cheers (hope you're enjoying married life, and hope to see you soon) Graham Thanks Joolz. Yes, totally agree that having the title doesn’t mean you ‘know’ it all.

That said, I’m less convinced about personal growth plans. I suppose it depends on how they are written, but what I am trying to get my clients to be able to do is to be able to describe their emotional senses, not retrospectively but concurrently, and to be able to reach a state of flow through a conscious path rather than an unconscious one. To explain the last bit, if the individual is working with their emotional states in the unconscious then if they reach a condition of flow their behaviour may not be congruent with the values they have (by this stage) agreed they wish to model. If, on the other hand, they are able to monitor their emotional states and bring this into the conscious, then when they reach a state of flow, there is a greater likelihood that it will congruent because the emotional distress or angst caused by the values and behaviour being incongruent would be ringing alarm bells in their mind and either make them aware of this subsequently or, more likely, prevent them from achieving the state of flow in the first place.

Now, if I was someone reading this from the outside I think I might be wondering what kind of planet this bloke is coming from!?

Cheers (hope you’re enjoying married life, and hope to see you soon)
Graham

]]> By: Joolz http://www.the-confidant.info/2010/ten-ways-for-senior-executives-to-get-ahead-by-managing-themselves/#comment-1367 Joolz Thu, 08 Mar 2012 10:15:25 +0000 http://www.the-confidant.info/?p=519#comment-1367 Fantastic Graham - wise points, beautifully made. I would add to point 1 'reflective practice' by saying that it's important leaders have a personal growth plan, that once they've identified where and how they need development they take responsibility for getting on with it. Getting the Exec level title doesn't mean you have to know it all, or have reached a high degree of competency across all levels of behaviour. Fantastic Graham – wise points, beautifully made. I would add to point 1 ‘reflective practice’ by saying that it’s important leaders have a personal growth plan, that once they’ve identified where and how they need development they take responsibility for getting on with it. Getting the Exec level title doesn’t mean you have to know it all, or have reached a high degree of competency across all levels of behaviour.

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