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When life at the top becomes too lonely…


When you’re unsure of the loyalties of those around you…
When a complex situation is unfolding too quickly…
When you are negotiating a political minefield…
When your own sense of confidence and security is challenged…



The leaders’ confidant, working behind the scenes, I help them see the dynamics of situations, the politics of organisations, their own personality, and the behaviour of other people, differently; motivating them to achieve more, enabling them to formulate their dreams, and find the confidence to transform these into reality. The most senior roles in an organisation are lonely places. Leaders often find few people with whom they can discuss things – both strategic and operational, may distrust the motives of their peers, or be concerned about divulging significant information inappropriately or too early.

Often, their ideas are not yet formulated and they are concerned that using others as sounding boards may lead to rumours and speculation that grow out of proportion with consequences that could harm them, the organisation and its stakeholders. A former Big-Four consultant and multinational HRD, I know that professional advisors can have split loyalties.

Leading Oxford University’s coaching programmes, I offer uniquely qualified, strictly boundaried, support as a confidant to people in positions of power. We build a relationship of trust, in which you can discuss almost any issue affecting you at the time, knowing that this will remain between us, and my support will not be compromised by my own agendas.

My articles reflect various aspects of my work. Use the menu to select particular themes.

If you feel I might be able to help you, please call, use skype, or email.
Graham Wilson


My latest articles

  • How do you mend a broken heart?
    Mending a broken heart, a deeply personal and often challenging process, requires time, self-care, and sometimes the support of others. While there’s no one-size-fits-all solution, here are some steps that can aid in the healing journey: Allow Yourself to Grieve Accept your feelings of sadness, anger, confusion, and loneliness as natural. It’s important to let yourself feel ...
  • Paper Candidates and Fake Democracies
    A “paper candidate” is a term often used in political contexts, particularly in elections. It refers to a candidate who runs for office with little to no expectation of winning. Instead, they are typically fielded by a political party or group with the primary intention of fulfilling a formal requirement for the election process, rather ...
  • The breakdown of the NHS
    Laura Hayes @laura1127md Dear Patient we have never met, #Radiologists sometimes cry for you and your family, some pray for you, and all of us fight for you. You have more support than you may know. Sincerely, One of your other doctors (Tweeted: 2pm 4th June 2022) My response: When my grandmother was seriously ill with thyroid cancer in ...
  • When one corporate policy is at odds with another… and where it is also bad for the planet!
    Francesca Steyn, writing for HR Review about the provision of fertility support for all employees, makes a very important point that is worth reiterating from the outset… Nobody should be discriminated against – in the workplace as much as anywhere else – on whatever grounds. If policies, laws and their implementation are good for one ...
  • Where empowerment and micromanagement clash
    A practical example of the challenge of empowering employees and yet protecting the image of your global brand.  Patisserie Valerie make great use of their customer email database.  Regular mailings with seasonal and speciality offers.  The quality of their produce stands out, they have invested heavily in perfecting the shipping of it – dry ice ...